Be really there in the moment when someone is talking.
#THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK FULL#
People will like you better, you'll sound more articulate, you'll give people the sense that they have your full attention and you're actively listening to them, which almost always makes people feel good. Perversely, the way to have the best and biggest impact when you're talking to someone is to put the focus on them more than yourself. You are almost guaranteed to be more focused on what this conversation means about what they think about you, how it reflects on you, how it will impact your day, than you are on the person speaking.
This isn't a bad thing or a character flaw, it is just a reality. We give people a very tiny percentage of our attention when we talk to them, because we're all egocentric. So if you're having a conversation and someone is talking, where's your focus? Are you ruminating about what you just said to them, because you're double-checking it and deciding whether you sounded stupid saying that thing just now? Or are you worried about what you're going to say, trying to come up with what you can say to sound smart or cool? If you can break that habit and put your focus on right now, the words this person is saying to you right this second, your entire focus is on what's happening at the moment and you can respond the way you mean to. Where that becomes difficult is if your mind is on what you just said instead of what the person is saying, or what you're going to say instead of what the person is saying. It means really hearing what that person said, taking it in, being with that thought, and then letting the words come. Thinking before you speak means being IN the present moment. It'll probably be both from time to time, but it is usually predominately one or the other. And the first thing that comes to mind for me when I think about that is first determining whether you're a future-preoccupied or past-preoccupied person.
#THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK HOW TO#
Your question is how to learn to think before you speak. It's just a matter of muscle memory, it's the rote phrase your brain throws out there when it gets cued to return a sentiment and it's not a big deal.īut that doesn't answer your question.
I waited tables a good chunk of my life and it happens three times a week. It’s time for us to stop and care about how God desires for us to live – and talk! It’s time to heed the Words of God and incorporate them into our lives.First of all, saying "you too" to the waiter happens literally all the time. These are truths that He desires for us to follow. THINK before you act, THINK before you speak, THINK before you respond or react And remember, Always ask God for help God is eager to help you to speak wisely Thanks for reading, Dear Friends Have a wonderfully blessed, stress-free, productive, and joyful day Much Love & Blessings, Bomi Jolly. God didn’t just put His instructions on how He wants us to live into the Scriptures to fill up space. Are you careful how you speak to all of them? Probably not – but you should be. Think about how you speak to others – your spouse, your children, your fellow workers, your church family, that person that rubs you the wrong way and makes you angry. I’m sure that you’ve heard the statement, “If you don’t have anything good to say – don’t say anything at all.” This is a Scriptural principle and should be followed – all the time. And YET, how often are we not careful about what we say or even think about how it affects others. God certainly cannot be more specific than this – “Let NO corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth.” Not ever, no way, under no circumstances should this ever be allowed. There is no room for misinterpreting what God is saying.īasically, God is telling us that whatever comes out of our mouth should be God honoring and should always build up those that are hearing us.
#THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK PROFESSIONAL#
This one verse in Ephesians 4:29 is a good example of this truth. Do You THINK Before You Speak communication personal growth professional development relationships work May 09, 2019. It seems that the ugly characteristic called ‘self’ keeps getting in the way! The Bible is FULL of instructions concerning how God desires for us to live and yet so often these truths do not motivate us to follow God’s ways. (I need to clarify this statement – I don’t marvel at what God says, I marvel that I don’t pay attention to what God says!) I marvel at how SPECIFIC God is in His Word concerning so many truths and directives for us as Christians. Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
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